If we are Facebook friends, I try to pay attention to all the little things going on in your life. Not like a stalker. Well, not for all of you anyway. I do stalk some of you, but you know who you are. I love looking at your photos and I always say a little prayer for you when you ask. I laugh at your memes and, sometimes, one of you will post something that just strikes a chord with me. That happened to me today. I was scrolling through my newsfeed like I do every day when I’m procrastinating and I saw a status update that simply said, “What if love was enough?” And it hit me like a freight train.
What if love was enough? What if we could love honestly and unconditionally without projecting our past experiences on the person who is our present? What if we could just accept people for the way they are. I’m not saying that we have to like some of their ways, but what if we just accept them? What if we stop expecting people to change to make us happy? What if we stop putting so much pressure on the people who are just trying to be with us? What if we stop putting so much pressure on ourselves to be so loveable?
What if love was enough? What if I could wake up and go a whole day without getting irritated because things aren’t the way I want them to be? What if I just accepted that the perfect life and the perfect world that I have laid out in my head is just that… in my head. Nobody knows what my expectations are, especially if I haven’t made them clear. I think it’s safe to say that most people aren’t mind readers so, your guy or your girl, they most likely don’t have a clue what you actually want, but I bet without a shadow of a doubt, they can make a numbered list of all the things you don’t want by the number of complaints you’ve made to that effect. Or at least, mine likely could.
What if love was enough? What if we all could just smile at one another? What if we could just look inside ourselves when we look at others and remember that we are not the only ones fighting battles? It doesn’t matter who the battle is with, a friend, a lover, a coworker, a parent, a sibling, a stranger, or with ourselves. Life is full of unspoken battles. What if we could put aside our own worldview and just love? What if we could just sit quietly with the person who values us the most and just be? No pressure, no words, no expectations, just silence and company and love.
It’s almost an unfathomable idea to think that there could ever be an answer as simple as love. If we could put away the pressure for those in our lives to be the way we want them, to stop doing the things we don’t like, to start doing the things we do like, we could change the world.
What if love was enough? I won’t even lie and say that I am not guilty of putting conditions on love. “If you loved me, you’d do this.” “You would do that if you loved me.” “Don’t say you love me when you can’t even do what I’m asking.” “I shouldn’t have to ask you. You’d do it, if you loved me.”
I’m so guilty of it, I feel like I need to start a list of apologies.
Instead of doing that, though, maybe for today, I will just love to love. I will love unconditionally. I will love just because.
Today, I will let love be enough.